Safety Action Plan
Create a plan of action to help you leave and protect yourself and your children before, during or after a threatening situation. Consider and include the following in your planning:
- Decide NOW where you will go and how you will get there the next time your partner becomes violent. Do this even if you don’t think there will be a next time.
- Leave money, an extra set of car keys and extra clothes with someone you trust.
- Keep copies of important documents (birth certificates, medical records, marriage license, financial records, etc.) hidden near an exit or with someone you trust.
- Develop a code word with your children, neighbors and friends to let them know you need to get out immediately.
- Teach children how to contact 911, and have emergency numbers on speed dial. On St. Croix you can dial 911 from landline phones, but the number is (340)772-9111 for cell and smart phones.
- Keep an extra cell phone hidden and charged. Let your children know where it’s kept and that it is to be used only in an emergency.
- Provide your children’s teachers and school principal with enough information about your situation for them to respond supportively. Ask them not to release the children to your spouse should you report to them that you are about to leave or have left the home.
- Try to avoid arguments in the bathroom, garage, kitchen, near weapons or near other places where there are sharp or heavy objects readily available.
- Keep a copy of your permanent restraining order with you at all times. Leave a copy at your children’s school as well.
- If your partner seems to be “building up” and you can’t leave safely, keep your back towards an open space, not a corner.
- Always try to take your children with you when you leave.
- Keep any evidence of physical abuse (ripped clothing, photographs of bruises and injuries, etc.).
- Tell someone you know and trust what is happening to you so that if you need to get out of your house in a hurry, you will have someone you can turn to for support.
- If you are injured, go to the hospital emergency room or doctor and tell them what happened to you.
Where You Can Call for Assistance:
Women’s Coalition of St. Croix: (340)773-WCSC (9272) – available 24 hours on St. Croix. Se habla español. Trained advocates are on duty, 24 hours a day, every day of the year, to provide compassionate support to victims of domestic violence and other crimes at the hospital or police stations; you can call if you just need to talk to someone. All calls are confidential.
Family Resource Center: (340)776-STOP (7867) – located on St. Thomas – available 24 hours.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233) or 800-787-3224(TTY) – available 24 hours. Se habla español. This hotline is staffed by trained counselors, ready to provide immediate crisis intervention assistance. Calls to the hotline are confidential.