How You Can Help Loved Ones
What Can I Do To Help Someone I Care About Who May Be Abused?
Sometimes being unsure of what to say or do can make it hard to talk to a loved one about your suspicions of domestic abuse. Do not let that stop you from expressing your concern, it may be just the opening she needs to start talking about what is going on. Here are some helpful suggestions on what you can say when you suspect that someone close to you may have been or is in an abusive relationship:
- I’m afraid for your safety.
- I’m afraid for the safety of your children.
- It will only get worse.
- We’re here for you when you are ready or when you are able to leave.
- You deserve better than this.
Ways You Can Help Your Loved One
If someone you care about is being battered:
- Be there for her as a friend. Don’t judge; be a good listener. Ask her what kind of support she needs from you.
- Allow her to make her own decisions.
- Tell her that no one deserves to be beaten or abused in any other way.
- Find out if she is physically hurt. If so, help her to the hospital.
- You can help her report the assault to the police, if she wishes to do so.
- If you can, help her with transportation and childcare.
- If she needs to leave home for her safety, help her find a temporary home if you can. In an emergency, invite her to stay with you if you think you will both be safe. If not, have her contact the Women’s Coalition of St. Croix (WCSC).
- Print this page for her.
- Please have her call WCSC at (340)773-9272, for additional help.
- Speak out against violence.
End the silence. There’s NO excuse for domestic violence!